I couldn't put it down, it was fantastic. It was a bit scary because it told it like it is, which you don't hear a lot when reading books about babies. I am so glad that I read it and think that it is a must for all expectant couples or couples with babies.
I learned a lot of really great points, like you need to stop scorekeeping ("You loaded the dishwasher? Well I cleaned the house, fed the dogs, changed the baby, and put her down for a nap.) You need to stop wishing for the next stage and just appreciate the one you have right now because it won't last very long and you'll regret missing it. Take time for yourself, leave the kids with the hubby and go somewhere! Have a girls day, or an alone day, anything! And have a date night! However often you feel is necessary, take turns planning it so you don't end up getting bitter and it feels like work to plan another date.
I feel after reading this book that I am much more prepared to handle the stress of a newborn because I have all the techniques to make my husband and I effective communicators. I am resolving to hang up my scorekeeping habits and (after a lot of convincing) have made a schedule with my husband of how we will divide the work evenly so no one can get mad.
No matter what age your kids are, if you are finding that your marriage is lacking and that your spouse is more of a roomate than your partner then pick the book up, you won't regret it.
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